There’s a difference between having a thought in our heads about who we are and having the belief be fully embodied within ourselves. Often this will mean the difference between longing for something and truly, deeply experiencing it. When we let go of all the old thought patterns and “gunk” …
Why it’s Important to be Conscious of What We’re Reaffirming to Ourselves
In every part of our lives, it’s important to be conscious of and responsible for what we’re reaffirming to ourselves. Often, we may catch ourselves having repetitive thoughts that don’t serve us, like, “People are out to get me. This isn’t going to work. I’m not a good speaker.” Most …
Are You Allowing Money to Dictate Your Worth?
Last week, I talked a lot about what happens when we push down our fearful thoughts and try to force ourselves to feel “fine” (read more HERE). Piling new, reactionary thoughts like, “I’m fine. I can do this. People respect me” on top of fear-based thoughts only works to reinforce …
Are You Creating a “Not Fine” Sandwich?
I often work with clients when they’re going through particularly challenging points in their lives. It’s not unusual for me to see clients up against something that feels impenetrable, and I hear them tell themselves things like, “I can’t do this. This isn’t going to work. Who am I to …
The More You’re Yourself, the More You’re Someone Who can do Sales
In last week’s blog post, Your Expectations Will be Reflected in the World Around You, I talked about what happens when you have disempowering expectations running in the background of your sales calls. This week, let’s continue the conversation about sales calls with the intention of really understanding what the …
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Your Expectations Will Be Reflected in the World Around You
“Expectations are resentments under construction.” – Anne Lamott Expectations are a really interesting thing. In a sense, they can be really unhelpful: when we expect something to happen and it doesn’t, we may become angry and resentful of it. At the same time, there’s another way of seeing expectations that’s …
Getting Tired of Ourselves
As humans, we must have some kind of motivation for change. Otherwise we’ll stay on the same path that we’re on right now. Often, that motivation is financial: when we have a particular need for money or when we see a drop in our income, we can move mountains to …
Investing in Yourself vs. “Spending Money”
When I hired my first business coach, it was a huge amount of money for me at the time. It scared me. It terrified me, actually, to invest that kind of money in myself. I’d never done anything like it before! What paying that much for coaching gave me, though, …
The Role of a Coach: More than a Mirror
I recently hired a new coach. We’ve worked together several times so far, and I’m really enjoying our process because she offers new insights into the way the world perceives me that I hadn’t previously realized and she relates to me as the greatest version of myself. I’ve heard people …
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The 3 Pieces of a Traumatic Event
Expectations and perceptions are so important. They can lift us up or hold us back, and we’re creating them all the time as we go through life. I talk to my clients a lot about specific events that have affected their perceptions and expectations of themselves and the world around …